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You Are Who You Are, Not What You Do

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This week I am sharing with you an inspiring article written by Madisyn Taylor and published on

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I thought you might appreciate Madisyn's words of wisdom too. She reminded me of the significance of separating what I do from who I am. This isn't an easy task but a necessary one in order to evolve on our spiritual journey. Please take a moment to read her blog and let me know if it helped you as well. I want to hear from you. Thank you. My prayer is that you, too, know deep down inside that you are not what you do, rather you are who you are regardless, and that's a universal truth!

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You Are Who You Are, Not What You Do
Becoming Your Wrong Decisions

by Madisyn Taylor from

We are not our decisions and no decision is wrong because we made the choice with the information at hand.

Our perception of the traits and characteristics that make us who we are is often tightly intertwined with how we live our life. We define ourselves in terms of the roles we adopt, our actions and in actions, our triumphs, and what we think are failures. As a result it is easy to identify so strongly with a decision that has resulted in unexpected negative consequences that we actually become that wrong decision. The disappointment and shame we feel when we make what we perceive as a mistake grows until it becomes a dominant part of our identities. We rationalize our poor decisions by labeling ourselves incompetent decision-makers. However, your true identity cannot be defined by your choices. Your essence what makes you a unique entity exists independently of your decision-making process.

There are no true right or wrong decisions. All decisions contribute to your development and are an integral part of your evolving existence yet they are still separate from the self. A decision that does not result in its intended outcome is in no way an illustration of character. Still, it can have dire effects on our ability to trust ourselves and our self-esteem. You can avoid becoming your decisions by affirming that a bad decision was just an experience, and next time you can choose differently.

Try to avoid lingering in the past and mulling over the circumstances that led to your perceived error in judgment. Instead, adapt to the new circumstances you must face by considering how you can use your intelligence, inner strength, and intuition to aid you in moving forward more mindfully.

Try not to entirely avoid thinking about the choices you have made, but reflect on the consequences of your decision from a rational rather than an emotional standpoint. Strive to under! stand why you made the choice you did, forgive yourself, and then move forward.

A perceived mistake becomes a valuable learning experience and is, in essence, a gift to learn and grow from. You are not a bad person and you are not your decisions; you are simply human.

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